We focus on the little or not so little things about our spouse that we find mildly irritating or downright maddening.

If we compare how our spouse looks at 6 a.m. There will no doubt be any number of men we are attracted to that we interact with. Be Careful of Comparing Your Mate to Others When women begin to question a relationship, it changes the way we look at everything.

Now finding another person attractive shouldn t be a problem. As our society continues to break down gender-based barriers to men and women freedom to choose how they live and work, we will increasingly find ourselves in such situations. It becomes a problem, however, when it leads us to question our current relationship, or when we decide to act on our new attraction.

There will inevitably be people of the opposite sex that we find attractive around us. And for good or bad we will make comparisons. Each day we are exposed to a variety of people; at work, at the playground, the grocery store, business trips, airports, etc.

Over the life of a marriage we will inevitably find ourselves spending time with other men to whom we are attracted.