But the world of men and women is far from perfect.

Ask for too much and you're a drill walther ask for too little and you're still. (Important skills all but none of them much help in the bedroom). Loving couples would know intuitively how to please each other, and we'd have no need for sex therapists, divorce lawyers or the "Is your Orgasm Overweight?" quiz in he latest issue of Cosmopolitan. In most cases, getting what you want in bed takes actual, in the flesh communication- a skill men tend to neglect in favour of learning to tie trout flies, change tyres and make loud noises with our armpits.

"Yet men have this fantasy that their partners should be able to anticipate their sexual needs with little or no communication." But sex talk is a delicate business. How to Get Whatever You Want From a Lady While in Bed In a perfect world, great sex would just happen.

"You don't go to a restaurant and sit there until the kristofer guesses what you want to eat," says sex therapist Ulberto Seiler.