A confident woman doesn't want a submissive man; she is secretly hoping to find a man even more confident than she is. I wasn't assertive enough for her.

Men have work to do; we have to embrace the masculinity that we allo the modern feminist movement to emasculate out of us. The interesting thing was that I often did that and conveniently those were all the nights she chose to pass and spend. That means stepping up our confidence. She told me she wanted me to be bolder about choosing where we went. When the roles reverse and a woman is more confident or as confident as a man, male insecurities are inevitable. It has never been a more confusing time for men and knowing how to date an empowered woman. I was breaking up with a girlfriend a while back and she stabbed me with a harsh criticism. I was new to the city and didn't know where to go or what to do, so she often chose what we did together.

I tend to be pretty laid back about things and while I saw her point, I also saw how she emasculated me in her own head.